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Love: Find it in a Book

16 Apr


A single friend recently forwarded me to a website that gives 15 tips to finding a boyfriend; professional matchmakers write the tips.  I have seen these tips before and actually (to my horror) picked up books stating the same silly reasoning’s behind finding a perfect true love or soul mate.  I hope that we can debunk these tips and move on in a positive light towards finding and making our love matches work.

There is no perfect formula for finding true love, there are ways in which we can find love around us, in our daily lives, love we were not even aware exists.  The love we find may transform us into better people, into individuals willing to open our eyes and see the bigger picture and then, and only then, may we become open to finding a soul mate.

Many theories float around the infamous universe that is the internet in regards to soul mates and true love.  Some of the websites are downright scary; if I have to think of love in another dimension I am just not buying it.  One thing is for sure, humans thrive when there is love in their lives.  Of course, the form of love may take on many different variations, however most individuals crave the relationship that comes from finding another person to share their lives with (even if the moment is brief), an individual that will fill the aching in our hearts.

In, Separated Soul Mates Reunited through a Writer, I wrote of the possibility that each person has another half, someone that will fulfill our deepest hopes and dreams and restore us to our natural bliss.  If the possibility is true then we have a search to embark upon.

Searching for love is a difficult battle, one in which we (the ones in relationships and the ones not) must stay open minded, close minded (only settle for what makes you truly happy), positive, reluctant to give up, and the big one, hopeful.

The search for love or the search to keep love in one’s life is not an easy task; many things must align correctly so that the relationship flourishes well into the future or is found in the first place.

Many of us turn to movies and literature so that we can find a glimpse of love, even if it then only transforms into our own dreams.  The form of love that one can find by using the imagination is a healthy way of forming our own needs and wants.  An author uses their own passions, mistakes, experiences and growth to share with their reader the profoundly rich experience of seeing love unfold within the pages of a novel or on a movie screen.  The reader shares in the triumphs of a lover if only for a moment, gaining the necessary hope for love.

A writer’s job never ends, but it takes my readers as well as me on so many journeys, I hope to never stop.

Now back to work.

Stay tuned for debunking the awful tips…

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